The manner in which we talk to our partners can enhance our happiness as a couple because the words we choose are a direct expression of our emotions.
1. Happy partners say «thank you» instead of «I’m sorry»
Do you see qualities or flaws? Do you say «thank you for understanding» or «sorry, I can’t talk about that…»
It is all a matter of choice and perspective.
Focusing on the qualities and on the bright side of the relationship will make you feel more fulfilled. Though there is always room for «better» and «more», bliss does not lay in excess or perfection.
Happy partners are wise enough to acknowledge that what they have is special and that all they actually need is already there.
Although it’s easier and more helpful to express appreciation than to apologize, we often go down the wrong path and value the people in our lives only after we’ve lost them. That being said, it’s never too late to change! Showing more gratitude to our loved ones may spare us of further regrets.
2. They use «we/our» instead of «I/mine»
Using the plural of the 1st person is a sign of:
acceptance — You know your lover and believe she/he is suitable for you.
affiliation — You are partners in the factual meaning of the word.
altruism — You are willing to give in order to receive.
assumed responsibility — you are co-creators of the relationship and both responsible for its success or failure.
Naturally these are the ingredients of any meaningful and happy relationship.
3. When they ask «How was your day?» they mean it
It might sound petty and common, but when you genuinely want to find about your partner’s day, they can sense it because you’re actually showing care and love.
The authentic feelings you have for each other are best expressed in the everyday little things that you do and share.
4. They say «yes» when they mean it
Happy partners do not need to approve one another’s opinions each time. They admit and respect their differences and that draws them even closer.
A meaningful relationship is about feeling free to disagree and acknowledging that you can’t be on the same page every time — and being fine with that.
5. They say «we’ll be fine» instead of «I told you so»
In a happy couple there’s no power struggle, no boss, no commands and no reproofs. The relationship works as one team and partners share and take responsibility for everything together.
Happy couples are aware that they are part of a great team and that together they are always stronger than on their own.
6. Always say «good night»
Happy couples stand by the old rule that they can’t go to bed upset and they will find a way to let go and restore peace before falling asleep.
A simple «good night» goes a long way and offers the necessary reassurance that what you have together is much more important than any disagreement.
7. They say «I love you» every day
Although some people argue that «I love you» loses its meaning if confessed too often, I disagree because it’s a great routine that keeps a couple happy.
Yeah, you may say it out of habit after a while, maybe even use it instead of «goodbye» or «thank you» but its deep meaning, will always be there.
8. They say «I’m happy»
Confessing your state of well-being and satisfaction within the relationship is a great sign of appreciation that your partner will cherish and feel inspired by.
Naturally, your partner wants to make you happy. When you’re acknowledging your bliss, your lover will feel successful, appreciated and happy as well.
In the end, happiness is contagious and the language of love is an infectious habit.
Are words all it takes to build a meaningful and happy relationship? Of course not, yet they are a great starting point and one of the most efficient ways to express your emotions.