Female Lawyer harassed at work by HC Judge’s married son proves that woman are still objects at workplace.

ender discrimination at workplace is commonplace and is much talked about. However, harassment against woman is something that happens even more but is drawn a veil over. Majority of these cases go unreported and as an alternative the victim quits the job. The reason for this pretense of oblivion in the society is because woman are usually advised against coming out in the open by the organisation, family etc. They are asked to ‘forget’ the whole incident and move on.

However, in some situations the woman is given confidence by someone who hasn’t bought the notion that ‘ it’s all good and a part of life ‘. This is the story of one such woman who is a Pakistani lawyer based in Islamabad who suffered harassment from the hands of the son of an HC Judge and vent out on Facebook.

“Four years ago at 22, I joined the legal profession. Many prepared me for what was to come. I was told not to wear too much makeup, keep my hair tied, keep my gaze stern and wear a dupatta at all times.I joined a law firm of national repute and I genuinely believed that my LLM degree and general privilege would shelter me from workplace harassment. Nevertheless, I kept my hair tied, my face stern and my makeup minimal.

I wanted to be known for my professionalism and in a city as small as Islamabad and a legal fraternity even smaller, I wanted my reputation to be clean and scandal-free.So when I was first sent messages by a senior colleague telling me how I look like a ‘gem’ and that I am beautiful I kept them to myself. More because the person sending those messages was the son of a High Court judge and I did not want my colleagues to consider me less professional and because I did not want my family to find out and tell me to discontinue working.

With time the messages became more frequent; between 11 PM to 3 AM I would receive up to 20/30 text messages almost every day, all those messages went unanswered and the next morning I would go to work and politely say salam to my colleague and pretend they never happened. When I did muster the courage to speak to my bosses, I was made to believe this is a right of passage and the messages will stop and I should concentrate on my work.

Soon after I left the law-firm because I could not handle the misogyny, and I could not work in an environment where I felt unsafe at the hands of a 30 something with a wife and son. I forgot about those messages and continued working hard.So when a week ago I received a message at 1230 AM from the same person calling me a slut, I had the same instinct to keep quiet and forget about it lest it create problems for me in my marriage and my current workplace. I was so conditioned to believe that this is okay that I was willing to forget this personal insult.

But when I told my husband (a man with more courage than I could ever dream of possessing), he made me realise that it is NOT okay. Regardless of who the person is and what his father does, he does not have a license to abuse me simply because his advances were ignored.

Having spent four years in a misogynistic profession, I thought my husband would be mad at me but instead, he gave me the courage to take this man down or he would do it himself regardless of the consequences. Which is why today I mustered the nerve to post this screenshot and the details of this man. His name is Salman Ijaz Chaudhry. His father is now a retired High Court Judge. He has a wife and children. And he continues to harass me just because he feels he can. I don’t know if this post will serve any purpose but I really hope he reads it and I hope his family and friends read it too. Men reading this should know that just because a woman leaves her home she isn’t ‘asking’ for it.
Despite having family and friends that will always support me, I’m still scared that this public abashment might lead to him saying even worse things about me. Which is why I pray for a time when women will be able to go to courts, hospitals and offices without their appearances being commented on. And where they will have the courage that I didn’t possess four years ago to not brush instances of harassment under the carpet and consider them a right of passage and ignore them only because of fear of the perpetrator’s physical strength simply by virtue of his gender.

Read her entire post here.

Comments

comments

Trending