We often find it hard to admit our own weaknesses, and we constantly make excuses for ourselves and others. We spend the majority of our lives waiting: waiting for something to happen, waiting for something to end, waiting for something to begin. But that ‘something’ is most definitely life itself. So why are we waiting? It’s time to face the harsh truth of life and begin to work on ourselves right now without delay.
#1. Nobody is actually too busy to respond to you
That boy or girl isn’t too busy to text you back. And your potential employer isn’t too loaded with work to get in touch. Remember, people make time for who they want to make time for. We text, call, and reply to the people we want to talk to.
If you don’t get a response from someone it’s because they have deliberately chosen not to answer you. The sooner you stop making excuses for people who treat you badly, the sooner you can get closer to the people who respect you.
#2. Everyone puts their own interests first
No matter how loving, kindhearted, and caring a person is, they will always put their own interests ahead of yours. Even the most attentive lover may not know which ’button’ to push, unless you give them a hint. Even the most honest employer may not be aware they’re driving you into the ground if you keep accepting more work.
Most people just take as much from you as they can get, no matter what. So try to establish your own limits, and don’t allow other people to stretch them. Strong people are not afraid to say ’no’ or speak up when necessary. They know that they have to stick up for themselves because no one else is going to.
#3. It’s impossible to keep everyone happy
If you did everything that every single person in your life told you to do, you’d probably go mad or would end up a lifeless, shapeless, emotionless blob.
The truth is, you can never please everyone. You can try, of course, but you will never succeed. There will always be someone who will disapprove of your choices or your way of life. You will be criticized no matter what you do. So make the decision that is right for you, and have the courage to pursue what you feel is right. The only judge you have to please is yourself.
#4. The world owes you absolutely nothing
You could be the coolest, the smartest, and the most interesting person in the world but if no one except you is aware of all these wonderful traits, you’ll get nothing out of them.
There are only two basic choices available: you can spend your entire life feeling sorry for yourself because you deserve more than you’re getting, or you can step into the world and take what you want. Guess which choice successful people make?
#5. You make excuses for yourself
You can spend your entire life blaming the world or others that you don’t have enough time, money, energy, or resources to accomplish your goals. And while your words may make some sense, actually the harsh truth is that every single person in this world has at least one damn good excuse for not living the life they want.
The people who get the most out of life don’t make excuses. They find ways to overcome obstacles instead of being disrupted by them. This is why they always succeed.
#6. Your actions define you, not your thoughts
You can sit indoors all day thinking of a better world for us, but until you get out and start doing something you’re not actually making a difference. The ability to make big plans is a good thing, but unless it is coupled with action towards your goals, then it is all in vain. Remember: we are judged by our actions, not our intentions.
#7. Nobody will save you from your life
In life, we are always waiting for something. We are either waiting to meet the right person, waiting for a dream to come true, or waiting for that job callback. When we’re unhappy with our current situation, we irrationally hope for a miracle that will help us to cope with all our problems.
But the truth is that life doesn’t work that way. Problems cannot be solved with a magic wand. If you want to make a change in your life and be more than you’ve been, you have to be the one that takes the steps towards your goals.
The strongest people know this simple truth: when times get tough, you don’t need to wait for someone to help or do something for you — you should rely only on yourself.