A wedding night is more than just sex or romance–there’s also a lot of fighting, crying and cleaning involved, it seems.

Movies and television shows will have you believe that a newly married couple’s first night together is also the most important night of their lives. In our country at least, the suhaag raat is often projected as the most anticipated moment of a marital relationship. And obviously, a typical wedding night comes with elements like a glass of milk and some exciting (hopefully) sex thrown in.

Seems like it’s time for a reality check!

These women’s confessions on Whisper-an app that lets people confess things anonymously–about what ACTUALLY happened on their wedding nights will burst your bubble completely. Forget romance; some of these women’s nights involved cleaning crap, fighting and even crying.