Some may want to get married when the time is correct, some when they’ve found the right person and some would prefer not to do it at all. Never the less, with each extraordinary man, we found an alternate opinion. A year ago, just 9% of 18 to 24 year old individuals in the U.S. were married, compared to 45% of year 1960.
We gathered crowd-sourced opinions from men on when precisely do they intend to get married and here are some of the responses:

I belong to that category. Love the freedom, parties, travel, reading and meeting people. I am doing well in career and have never felt alone in my life. Have a wonderful family and amazing friends. I am grateful every living moment for the life I live. Have been in love more than once and date whenever I have time. I meet amazing girls everywhere. I don’t have a mental block on age, religion or nationality or even profession of the girl. Friends say because I am not thinking of marriage, it makes it easy for me to love people for what they are and how they make me feel in the relationship.

Marriage has become such a big thing where lakhs and crores are spent, I can’t afford it.” – Salman Khan

Another friend who turned 40 last life, spend her last year pursuing the second masters of her choice from the UK  She does have plans of third one or even PhD in future. She wouldn’t mind marriage and husband if the things click . Have dated Indian and foreigners, and doesn’t care about religion. Is as brilliant at work and good with homemaking. Has plans of having her own bakery someday. She would have loved her own kids but will be fine with adoption.

So, life is good for most of the women I know who are not married, as long as they are independent and they are unmarried by choice. It does get a little frustrating when they want to marry but they don’t meet the right guys or when they have an unrealistic view of marriage even in the 30s (not because they are older but because after seeing life, you need to get real).

Guys have been blindsided in our culture. We don’t see the path to manhood, and we often don’t know how to view women, sex, relationships, marriage, and our role as husbands.”

Marriage needs to be re-explained. It needs to be re-branded as an awesome, noble, and challenging adventure. Our manhood, our happiness, and our children’s future depend on marriage, yours, mine, and everybody else’s.”

One way of defining commitment in marriage is never considering divorce. If you know that you won’t be leaving or divorcing, it forces you to face differences and problems and work through them. In marriage, it is the security of commitment that allows a woman to feel peace in the relationship.  The assurance of a husband’s commitment helps a woman entrust herself to him emotionally and sexually.

I am too busy learning the best technology, doing adventure sports, driving all along the coast and spending vacations in Vegas and California. We might spend new year Vegas and then in Florida. We plan to spend one summer driving French Riviera. Marriage comes after all this life that I have to live.”

He is to steward and shepherd himself and his wife’s union.  He is to be proactive at assisting God in healing her past wounds, creating oneness in their bond, and assuring her (and their children) of his love for her. Women are natural responders when men initiate in love, prayer, and humility.  Men must not be passive, arrogant, distracted, or controlling.  A man will not point the finger at his wife’s behavior or shortcomings, but will examine his history as a husband and ask God to change him.  His heart, his care, and his initiative is the key to his wife’s response and the health of the marriage.

What’s the big deal, you say? Couples are just living together instead of getting married.

After many years of your retirement and when your parents are not there, and when you start getting sick because of age, at that moment when you look around yourself, you will be surrounded with complete loneliness. Believe me, you won’t love that loneliness. It is better if you get settled at the right age.

It’s hard to say and will largely hinge on whether or not I get married and have a family. But the one thing I can tell you at this point in time is that I would not want any more than ten years of retirement. Given that the average life-span by then will be around 85 years (or more, we’re talking of somewhere between 2050–2060 A.D.), it means I want to work until the age of at least 75. Provided of course that I am not struck with some debilitating disease, in which case providence will have taken that decision out of my hands.

The parents want to get girls married as early as possible so that they can manage dowry within their means. In cities, the problem of dowry is quite less due to the education of the girls and their independence, hence parents treat them equally. The only way to cure this evil is that as many Indians as possible must be shifted from villages to cities where the girls and boys can get the best education and exposed to the modern liberal values where they can be treated as equal.

What amuses me the most is the one, who don’t even know us pry into such a personal decision. Even those who are single themselves expect us to get married. Quoting ‘you got your special someone, now you should not delay. Else you will regret’ At times I really want to follow it up with a rebuttal and state that if there is an iota of scope for regret at any point in time we might as well not do it all together.”

I am 30 YO in a serious relationship from past 3–4 years. And I am tired of explaining to people that: I and my partner are not getting married soon simply for the sake of society. And NO, it is not commitment phobia. I am an Indian and so is my partner. We both are 30 and 31 YO respectively. We travel, write, watch movies, cook bad dishes, play games, and do everything that makes us say we live our lives happily together. It is true, to say the least, that wherever we go, more often than a ‘How are you?’ We get a ‘When you are getting married?'”

You’re married to a wonderful man, it’s peace and calm and Sunday brunch happy in your house in the suburbs. You drive to work and take the kids to school, he drives homes from work to pick up the kids. Once a week or twice you have sex. But you’re not dying to see each other. I can’t wait to experience a calm life like this.

The consideration of the possibility of a big wedding is so unimportant to me that I think making marriage a line in the sand is silly. If the question of the existence of a God doesn’t matter enough for me to think about it much at all, I sure don’t intend to make the denial of a god a big deal either.

The right partner will actually help you achieve what you want from life. Contrary to popular belief, marriage doesn’t need to occur at an ‘appropriate age’ instead, consider getting married at the appropriate phase of life. have you found a person that you mesh well with that fulfils your emotional needs and supports your ambitions? Bingo! also, it’s not necessary to have children right away; enlist your partner to help you build your life. once you are comfortable with what you’ve built and can sustain yourselves, start to think about expanding your family.”

I have no obvious, rational reason to get married. I come from a very liberal family, and no one would have cared if my girlfriend and I had just continued to live together. Neither of us is religious, nor are my parents. My wife’s mom was a believer, but she died before we even started dating. We were sure, from the outset, that we wouldn’t have kids. (And after 16 years of marriage, we still don’t plan to have any.) And we keep separate bank accounts. I am a financial imbecile, so though I’ve heard there are ‘tax implications’, I’ve never paid attention to them.

Between building your career and battling your biological clock, where does actual LOVE fit in? If the consensus is that a woman should stay single in her 20s, yet marry AND have children by her mid-30s, that is a small five-year time frame.

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If I ever had at least one long-term relationship during my 20’s, I would be glad. But, I never had one. In my opinion, I have me failed as a man, I couldn’t ‘catch’ a woman to have a long-term relationship, I couldn’t make a woman attracted to me, I feel without value. Each culture is different, I guess in USA women have more power. I have never been there to attest.